Criticism

In the last month we have talked about many self preservation topics, personal items that really engage us to take ownership of our life.  Today I would like to share a bit about criticism.  It is certainly all around us.


Let’s talk politics, religion or current events and you are sure to have at least 100 examples of criticism.  I don’t know that it will ever be something that we eliminate, and perhaps it is something that decrease and change how it is what we share with others.


Rule #1.  YOU (YES YOU) are the only one (the ONLY one) who has the authority to give someone the power to bring you down, chip away at your self-confidence, or make you feel upset.  YOU AND YOU ALONE! 

Sure if there is someone who is loud, rude and in your face that may be a bit to take in, it would be for anyone.  And again I still say, see Rule #1.  You are the author of your life story, are you going to include them in that or not? 


Too often we allow the negative criticism of other people to have so much power over us, our self-confidence suffers as well as our drive to try and do new things.  We must always remember… after you remove the tone of voice, and the body what is left?  Simple; A personal opinion.  Nothing more.  Nothing less.


Two important lessons: It is important to distance yourself emotionally so far that the criticism does not hurt your feelings. And there may be times that some of what is being criticized is something valuable that you could learn from.


Above all: do not begin a war, that emotional, off the cuff counter-attack that is when we normally defend ourselves.  It is a bit about self preservation.  You will do yourself a favor and openly listen to constructive criticism, thank them for it and think about it!

Regard criticism not as a personal attack, but an opportunity to learn, grow and improve.  It will not be easy at first, nothing is.  It will take some time to learn this skill, and you can do it!

We can be the change we seek in this world, and in ourselves.  One day.  One journey.  One person.  One lesson at a time.

Royal D. Bush serves as Interfaith Chaplain.  He has studied at Andersonville Theological Seminary, and the International Institute of Faith Based Counseling.  He also holds a Bachelor Degree in business administration. He is available for premarital coaching, couples coaching, life coaching, and pastoral care in the Nebraska and Iowa area.

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