Overcoming
fear is not something that is easy or a task that most people even want to try
and address. To begin with it is time
consuming. It is daunting. And it can be downright scary!
In
the movie, The King’s Speech, it tells the story of King George VI. He was forced into the spotlight at a time
when live radio was thee mode of communication, and it was new! He wanted no part of public speaking let
alone address many people via the radio, especially since he stuttered. He could barely get a full sentence out. As war loomed the people needed his
leadership. It’s an inspiring story because he did work on overcoming his
fears.
One
of the basic human needs is certainty (comfort, safety, feeling secure), how
could he know certainty with his stuttering problem, lack of self confidence
and (at first) unwillingness to commit to working on it? Just when we get comfortable with being
certain, we get board. When we know what
will happen, and when and why we will get board. So another human need is… uncertainty (variety.) Most of the time we call the variety we don’t
want: problems (and we usually sweep them under the rug or put them in the
closet.)
We
know that the quality of your life is directly related to the amount of
uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.
So perhaps it is not about overcoming fear but understanding uncertainty.
Overcoming
fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. It is the result of deliberate
intention, and conscious action towards doing things that scares you. As a
result of overcoming your fears, you grow as a person, and expand the possibilities
that surround your life (and it is not about playing it safe…)
One
of the many interesting things about life is that nothing of value was ever
gained by playing it safe. Take, for example, the founding of America.
Fifty-six men risked their lives by signing the Declaration of Independence.
Their act of signing that document constituted treason and it was a serious
offense according to the laws of the British Empire. However, they knew that
they needed to sign that document in order to achieve independence.
Most
of our experiences in life are determined by our perception. Our perception of
a situation determines our thoughts and that in turn creates how we feel about
a situation. Thoughts and feelings work hand in hand. Each one influences the
other.
The
interesting thing about overcoming a fear is that you need to believe that you
can do it. Doubt is like cancer. It feeds on all the positive, happy thoughts
and feelings you may have. Nothing kills a dream more quickly than doubt.
What
usually prevents people from taking a risk is the fact that the outcome is not
guaranteed. None of us are able to predict exactly what the future will bring.
Therein lies the beauty of life.
We can be the change we seek in
this world, and in ourselves. One day. One journey.
One person. One fear at a time.
Royal D.
Bush serves as a Multifaith Chaplain with Inclusive Life. He studied at Andersonville Theological
Seminary, and with the International Institute of Faith Based Counseling. He holds a Bachelor Degree in business
administration. Chaplain Royal shares two important messages: You are
beautiful, you are loved and you are worthy, just the way you are. And: Now is time in this world that every human
being is called to life up the weak, offer a hand UP to the impoverished,
cherish our elders and stand up for the oppressed.
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