Saturday, March 24, 2012

Fear


Overcoming fear is not something that is easy or a task that most people even want to try and address.  To begin with it is time consuming.  It is daunting.  And it can be downright scary!

In the movie, The King’s Speech, it tells the story of King George VI.  He was forced into the spotlight at a time when live radio was thee mode of communication, and it was new!  He wanted no part of public speaking let alone address many people via the radio, especially since he stuttered.  He could barely get a full sentence out.  As war loomed the people needed his leadership. It’s an inspiring story because he did work on overcoming his fears.

One of the basic human needs is certainty (comfort, safety, feeling secure), how could he know certainty with his stuttering problem, lack of self confidence and (at first) unwillingness to commit to working on it?  Just when we get comfortable with being certain, we get board.  When we know what will happen, and when and why we will get board.  So another human need is… uncertainty (variety.)  Most of the time we call the variety we don’t want: problems (and we usually sweep them under the rug or put them in the closet.)

We know that the quality of your life is directly related to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.  So perhaps it is not about overcoming fear but understanding uncertainty. 

Overcoming fear doesn’t happen instantly or automatically. It is the result of deliberate intention, and conscious action towards doing things that scares you. As a result of overcoming your fears, you grow as a person, and expand the possibilities that surround your life (and it is not about playing it safe…)

One of the many interesting things about life is that nothing of value was ever gained by playing it safe. Take, for example, the founding of America. Fifty-six men risked their lives by signing the Declaration of Independence. Their act of signing that document constituted treason and it was a serious offense according to the laws of the British Empire. However, they knew that they needed to sign that document in order to achieve independence.

Most of our experiences in life are determined by our perception. Our perception of a situation determines our thoughts and that in turn creates how we feel about a situation. Thoughts and feelings work hand in hand. Each one influences the other.

The interesting thing about overcoming a fear is that you need to believe that you can do it. Doubt is like cancer. It feeds on all the positive, happy thoughts and feelings you may have. Nothing kills a dream more quickly than doubt.

What usually prevents people from taking a risk is the fact that the outcome is not guaranteed. None of us are able to predict exactly what the future will bring. Therein lies the beauty of life.



We can be the change we seek in this world, and in ourselves.  One day.  One journey.  One person.  One fear at a time.

Royal D. Bush serves as a Multifaith Chaplain with Inclusive Life.  He studied at Andersonville Theological Seminary, and with the International Institute of Faith Based Counseling.  He holds a Bachelor Degree in business administration. Chaplain Royal shares two important messages: You are beautiful, you are loved and you are worthy, just the way you are.  And: Now is time in this world that every human being is called to life up the weak, offer a hand UP to the impoverished, cherish our elders and stand up for the oppressed.

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