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HOW TO MOVE ON...

No matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never get through it without being surrounded by those whom love you, your family and friends.  Be open.  Be honest with them.  Once you come to terms with the fact that break ups happen in life and that they will happen to you, then you can move on to the golden rule of break ups:

Declare to yourself the belief that it’s necessary to get over the person who broke up with you (not forget, but “move on.”)  Unfortunately a good number of people resist the break up, and resist getting over the person. It happens way too often Even worse than resisting getting over the person, where one part of you wants to move on while the other is still holding on, is that some people are not aware of this conflict that is going on in their mind. This conflict may leave you drained mentally and emotionally and you won’t be in full control of your thoughts.

Always know what you want – get over the break up and ask yourself why you are so resistant at moving on. Ask yourself what makes you attracted to this person, what you really like about him/her that makes him/her so special and why can’t you get over him/her? This way you will clarify your emotions and get to know yourself better. Once your mind is clear, you will get a sense of direction for your life. You will know exactly what you want and you won’t have any more second thoughts.

If you have a choice of going to Europe or Australia for a trip, and you can’t make up your mind because you want to visit both places, you will probably end up not visiting either one!  If you haven’t made up your mind about what you want from life, you won’t achieve anything but a feeling of frustration. You will feel unsure of yourself, since you will constantly investigate your feelings to try to understand your true desire.

So before taking the plunge and getting involved in another relationship, try understand your feelings first...Gather information about yourself from your family and friends and most importantly from yourself.  You need to know two things before you move onto another relationship; 1) Know yourself, your dreams, your needs, and your aspirations-well.  And 2) Know the qualities that are important to you, in a companion.  Don’t settle for anything less than what you know will make you happy and remember, sometimes the person you really need is the one you didn’t think you wanted.