A friend told me Bob was the kind of guy you love to hate.
He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When
someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better,
I would be twins!”
He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who
had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters
followed Bob was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an
employee was having a bad day, Bob was there telling the employee how to look
on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made my friend curious, so one day he
went up to Bob and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person
all of the time. How do you do it?” Bob replied, “Each morning I wake up and say
to myself, Bob, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood
or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each
time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to
learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me
complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the
positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”
“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested. “Yes it is,” Bob said. “Life is all about
choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You
choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your
mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your
choice how you live life.”
My friend reflected on what Bob said. Soon thereafter, he
left the restaurant industry to start his own business. They lost touch, but he
often thought about him when he made a choice about life instead of reacting to
it. Several years later, he heard that Bob did something you are never supposed
to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was
held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his
hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers
panicked and shot him. Luckily, Bob was found relatively quickly and rushed to
the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care,
Bob was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his
body. I saw Bob about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any
better, I’d be twins, wanna see my scars?”
My friend declined to see the wounds, but did ask him what had gone
through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through
my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Bob replied. “Then, as I
lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live,
or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”
“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” he asked. Bob
continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be
fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the
expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In
their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”
“What did you do?” my friend asked. “Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting
questions at me,” said Bob. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I
replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply… I
took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I
am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”
Bob lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also
because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the
choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
We do have choices and have a direct impact on how are day
will be, how we will impact others too!
The words we use each day have the capacity to do many things.
The can hurt, heal, motivate, tear down, rip, build, share
love, spread gossip, promote hate and…
Words can help others feel included or make them feel more isolated. They have the power to bring calm or to
spread panic. They have the power to
bless others or to curse them. They have
the power to share good news or to remove hope.
They can share thanks or complain.
Some questions for you to consider…
How do you, use words?
What words do you use?
Do your words build up, or tear down?
Are they encouraging or negative?
In your darkest hour, if your words were used against you
would they help you see light, or remain in darkness?
Chaplain Royal Bush and Chaplain Beth Loofe are Interfaith Chaplains offering nondenominational and nonreligious care and services to all, without exception in Nebraska and Iowa. They conduct Weddings, Premarital Coaching, Couples Coaching,Funerals, End of Life Planning, and Pastoral Care. For more information please email info@inclusivelife.org OR phone 402-575-7006.
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